Sexuality

Sexuality is a complex, wide and potentially wonderful world. Our culture gives us wildly confusing messages about it. On one hand we are stimulated and teased by it virtually everywhere we look. On the other, there is a poverty of real information about it. Most doctors, educators, parents, even therapists rarely speak of it in a meaningful way. Even couples themselves don’t talk about it, out of fear, shame, or the simple belief that they are “supposed to know” much more than they do. So where do young people “learn” about sex? Nowadays, largely from porn and Hollywood, which are hardly realistic portrayals.

Sexuality encompasses so many parts of us: body, emotion, relationship, operating together or not. It can be a wondrous source of pleasure and joy; and/or devastating, and very confusing. It is my wish to contribute to better understanding about it, so we can manage and enjoy our own better!

The Largest Sexual Organ: Using Our Brains to Restore Traumatized Sexuality

The Largest Sexual Organ: Using Our Brains to Restore Traumatized Sexuality

For those of us who work with the traumatized, which like it or not is probably most of us to some extent, it is well known that trauma’s gravest and most painful sequelae are in the area of relationship.

Even when the actual trauma is not interpersonal in nature, trust and safety in the world and in relation to others, tends to be shattered.

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Coming of Age: Sexuality Pioneer Betty Dodson Turns 90

Coming of Age: Sexuality Pioneer Betty Dodson Turns 90

It was almost two decades ago when I stumbled across a most remarkable video.

In it, a circle of women, all naked; and their group leader, a woman in her seventies, also naked. They were pre-orgasmic, and she was teaching them how to have their first orgasms.

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Pandemic: An Upstream Look At #MeToo

Pandemic: An Upstream Look At #MeToo

For three decades the voices of #MeToo have echoed off the walls of my psychotherapy office.

What a long overdue and welcome relief to hear them resound at long last, even be believed in the larger world outside. Gratified and hopeful though I am that the issues of exploitation, abuse and sexual injustice are getting wide mass and mainstream attention, I find myself thinking more deeply about its causes and prevention.

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