Trauma & Neglect

Trauma by definition is overwhelming experience, which essentially means the stimulus is greater than what the brain and nervous system are designed to process in their customary way. Neglect is the panoply of essential missing experiences, without which survival and wellbeing may be compromised and possibly threatened. Both can dysregulate the brain, and body and leave their mark on virtually all aspects of human functioning.

The Upcoming Book

For many years, adult “children of neglect” have lamented, “why did no one ever recognize this before?” or “I could never understand why I felt bad, there was nothing they could point to in their childhoods. They found little to read that seemed to fit or help. Learning about neglect, suddenly they understood what was “wrong” and had a direction for how to feel better. Both they and their partners implored me, “please teach and write about this!” Thus this book.

Too Much of Nothing: Working with the Developmental Trauma of Childhood Neglect is in the early stages of writing. Like my first book, Coming Home to Passion, it is intends to teach therapists how to help children of neglect, while also being accessible to the intelligent client population. It is projected to appear in 2020. Updates will be available on this site.

Stay tuned to my weekly blog for more information and for dialog.

Topics covered in this book will include:

  • What is neglect?
  • I had food, clothing and shelter, so what was missing?
  • The “three P’s of neglect:” passivity, procrastination and paralysis
  • Caretaking: why the “external” focus?
  • Isolation: self centeredness or self reliance?
  • The conundrum of relationship
  • “Knowing” it all
  • The koan of sexuality
  • The myth of powerlessness
  • Healing? Who needs It?
  • Steps to healing and growth for the self reliant character
Body Oriented Psychotherapy in the Treatment of Trauma

Body Oriented Psychotherapy in the Treatment of Trauma

In the past ten or so years of burgeoning progress, the growing subfield of traumatology has come to identify and elucidate much about the physiology of trauma.

From the start it was undeniably obvious that trauma was a “physioneurosis,” (van der Kolk, McFarlane and Weisaeth, 1996) directly afflicting the body even if there was no direct bodily injury or even bodily threat.

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Too Much of Nothing: Spotlight on Neglect

Too Much of Nothing: Spotlight on Neglect

When I was a teenager, my first boyfriend Ted, was a serious photographer.

I used to love to keep him company in the darkroom, in the rosy glow of the safe light watching the then complicated process of film developing.

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The Essential Female Tragedy – Changing the Ending: Therapy with Mothers and Daughters of the Incest Family

The Essential Female Tragedy – Changing the Ending: Therapy with Mothers and Daughters of the Incest Family

On a dark November afternoon, I received an unusual phone message from a woman in Southern California.

She had gotten my name from her daughter, and she wanted to come and see me.

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